How to develop Resilience?

Make connections. Having close and enjoyable relationships with close family members, friends or others is important. Accepting help and support from those who care about you and will listen to you strengthens mental resilience. It is all about remaining connected when there are issues that are knocking on our doors. Assisting others in their time of need also can benefit the helper.

Do not see the crises as insurmountable problems. We cannot change stress factors, but can change the way we perceive these in our lives. The future always looks better than the past, and also sometimes from the issues in the present. Note any subtle ways in which we might start feeling a bit better, even as we deal with difficult situations.

Moving toward our goals. Developing some realistic goals, and making course corrections as we progress is the best way to keep moving forward. Doing something regularly — even if it seems like a small accomplishment — enables us to move toward our goals. Instead of focusing on tasks that seem unachievable, ask yourself, “What’s one thing I know I can accomplish today that helps me move in the direction I want to go?” Every world leader has acknowledged this as their defining attribute to world-class achievements.

Be decisive in our actions. We need to act on adverse situations, and not let things slide by us. We must take decisive actions, rather than detaching completely from problems and stresses and wishing they would just go away. They do not go away, they just compound over time and grow bigger and more complex.

Accepting change as part of living. Our goals change as we progress in life. Nothing is constant. Nature around us is a great example. The only way we can survive and adopt is to assimilate the fact that ‘change’ is going to happen. Accepting the circumstances that we cannot change or effect is the best way to continue moving forward. Retune to a different goal, as long as the course is still in the right direction. We cannot fret over what we cannot change.

Looking for self-discovery opportunities. Every negative incident is a great learning ground for self-development. We often learn something about ourselves and grow in some respect as a result of our struggle with loss. Many people who have experienced tragedies and difficulties in their lives have reported better relationships, greater sense of inner strength even while feeling vulnerable, increased sense of self-compassion, a more enhanced spirituality and greater appreciation for life.

Keeping things in the right perspective. Even while we are facing very complex and painful events, we always should consider the stressful situation in a broader context and keep a long-term perspective in mind. Always try and avoid catastrophising.

Maintaining hope. We should always have ‘Hope’. Optimism enables us to always expect that better things will happen in our life. ‘This too shall pass’, as the saying goes. Try visualizing what is a better outcome, rather than worrying about what is the problem in front of us.

Taking care of us. Always pay attention to our own needs and feelings.Engage proactively in activities that we enjoy and find relaxing. Exercise regularly, even for 15 minutes. Taking care of ourselves helps to keep our mind and body primed to deal with situations that require resilience, and then the stress does not seem so terrible.

Nurturing positivity. We need to develop a sense of enhanced self-confidence in our ability to solve problems, and trusting our instincts helps to build self-compassion and also resilience.

Other ways of strengthening resilience. For example, some people maintain diaries and write about their deepest thoughts and feelings related to trauma or other stressful events in their life. Use a ‘narrative approach’. We at the MARSAI clinic do assist with this style of communication. Meditation and spiritual practices help some people build connections and restore hope.

The key is to identify ways that are likely to work well for you as part of your own personal strategy for fostering resilience.

How can we help?

We at the MARSAI Clinic assist our patient to build on their mental resilience by using Narrative approach, with patient-centred collaborative approach. We use mindfulness based techniques. We consider building your Mental Resilience the key aspect of our therapy. It might take a while, but well, as the Chinese saying goes: ‘The journey of a thousand miles still needs the first step’. So why not start today?

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